How to Prepare for Child Custody Mediation
Divorce can be emotionally overwhelming. Discussing child custody between you and your ex-spouse can spiral into a never-ending battle. Although it may be tough to keep your cool, it’s important to think about what’s best for your children. Here are a few ideas that can help you be organized and calm as you work out the details of child custody with your ex.
- Remain calm. It helps to start from a place of inner peace, even as you ride the roller coaster of your emotions. No matter how you feel about your ex, or how he or she feels about you, the goal is to come to an agreement that will benefit your children. Take some deep breaths and keep calm. From a place of peace, it’s easier for you to be open-minded and find more room for compromise.
- Decide what you want to accomplish. Remember this isn’t a war or competition. This is a discussion about child custody and the particulars of how this will be worked out. Think of what you’re concerned about, what you’re afraid of, and the best outcomes. Write them all out.
- Consult with an experienced family law attorney. Having an experienced child custody lawyer who is also an expert negotiator can help your child custody case. Whether your attorney accompanies you to mediation or not, she can go over what your concerns and fears and advise you on how to get the best solution for you and your children.
- Collect evidence. Sometimes, you may be divorcing because of dire circumstances such as spousal or child abuse. If you don’t want your children spending time with your ex-spouse because of abuse, then you’ll want to get evidence such as your children’s report cards and a police report. The more third-party evidence you have, you won’t have to bicker about what happened.
- Sketch out some time schedules and custody agreements. This is especially important for children in elementary school, to have a steady routine and schedule. As much as possible, you and your ex-spouse need to be on the same page about how you will raise your children. You can solidify the details in mediation.
If you are looking for effective legal advice for your child custody mediation, Kraft, Miles & Miller, LLP, formerly the Law Offices of Marcia L. Kraft, can be of help. Since 1990, our law firm has served the legal needs of families and individuals in Woodland Hills, the San Fernando Valley, and in Los Angeles and Ventura Counties. Our experienced and compassionate family law attorneys work along aside our clients, offering peace of mind and comfort through experienced representation.